Friday, September 19, 2014
5 Lessons from Anger
Anger's been a mainstay in my life. Felt like it's always been there, but in as many times as it has arisen over the years, it has ceased. And lessons have been learned.
1) You are not the anger
You are the watcher of the anger. It is not "your" anger, it's just "anger". It is not you, it is something that arises within your consciousness, but it is not you, nor does it belong to you.
You are the observer of it.
2) Anger is a letter way from Danger
Anger itself is harmless if you just let it arise, remain, and cease. It's dangerous though because it typically demands an instant reaction. However, if you can resist the temptation to lash out of anger, it has no power. If you react out of anger it is definitely bringing you into the danger zone, but if you watch and observe it without reacting, it's as harmless as clouds passing through picturesque blue sky on a sunny afternoon.
3) Anger and patience are two sides of the same coin
To practice patience you need anger. Anger is a subconsious emotion which arises without you wanting it to arise. People do not choose to be angry consciously, but they choose to be patience on a conscious level. So you are not an angry person, but you are a patient person.
4) Anger is a gift
Anger forces you to be in the present moment if you want to not react to it. If you are going to use anger in a positive way, you need to watch it arise, remain, and cease. Reaction is something that can be highly destructive, but observation of it is brilliant because it totally brings you to the present moment.
5) Mood determines reaction
There are certain mental states when you are not offended, irritated, or angered, by anything. However, there are other states where anything can set you off. So the state of consciousness you are in or the mood you are in will determine the subconscious emergence of anger. If you are in a joyous state where nothing bothers you and everything just rolls off you, then anger does not emerge. So you can make the argument that it's not necessarily the person, the place, the situation, or the event that causes anger to arise; but more so, it is a case where the state of consciousness that you are in heavily influences what non-conscious impulses will emerge inside you.